Tim and Jessica were in marriage counseling. They both wanted it to work. But they left every session feeling more exhausted by it - like they were just rehashing their arguments with a referee.

They were both trying so hard to get the other person to understand their side…

That neither of them felt understood.

Once that changed, their conversations changed too.

They stopped exhausting themselves fighting to be heard. And started actually enjoying each other again.

The tension lifted.

The playfulness came back.
Jessica said, "We finally started having the light, fun, connected marriage we wanted all along."

Sarah’s husband was emotionally shut down and dealing with depression.

But the more she pleaded with him to go to therapy and deal with what was going on, the more he resisted.

So instead of continuing to push him to change…

Sarah focused on creating more openness and connection between them.

He started opening up on his own.

And then he decided he wanted to deal with what he’d been struggling with.

She said, "I felt so powerless and helpless before. Now I feel like I actually have the tools. We're closer and happier than we've ever been."

Mike and his wife were separated. She wanted space. Their conversations were focused on the past…
But once he stopped fighting over the past, and started working through it together with her - it stopped keeping them apart.

And within a few weeks, she was asking him to move back home.

But they didn’t simply get back together.
They became a team again.

The fighting over the past stopped.
The tension and coldness disappeared.
The affection came back.

Today, Mike describes their marriage as "the relationship I always felt like we deserved, but wasn't sure was possible."